Huberman When we enter relationships, are we looking to (whether we know it or not) extend our identity in its current form, or update it? Perel Completely both. We want to change, but only so much. I am drawn to you because you are structured, organized, disciplined, I am not, and I seek to be. At the same time, I might start resenting you for your rigidity. Maybe we seek others as catalysts for change, but when the friction starts we get defensive. Read more...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=crMxqDwqbKg Zizek: We live in a “liberal” society in which we are free only nominally It’s easier than ever before to find a partner, in the sense that you can download an app and match with someone. Paradoxically, because it has become so easy to find people, it has become so difficult to find a partner for life. In today’s world, sticking with someone in a monogamous relationship is almost an act of rebellion! Read more...

My deepest, darkest secret is probably that I am an intense lover of milk. Really, I savor all dairy products, but milk in particular I do not simply want but rather ache for. I can’t fully explicate the effect it has on my gustatory cortex + nervous system. When I pour out a glass of 3% and let it breathe for a moment, I reel in anticipation. After no more than a minute of waiting, my self-control disintegrates and a violent force overtakes me. Read more...